Listen
Children will listen to you AFTER they feel listened to.
1.) Notice how often you interrupt, explain, defend your position, lecture, or give a command when your child tries to talk to you.
2.) Stop and just listen. It is okay to ask questions such as, "Can you give me an example? Is there anything else?"
3.) When your child is finished, ask if she is willing to hear you.
5.) After sharing, focus on a solution that works for both.
Eye to Eye
Have you noticed it doesn't work when you sit on the couch and yell at your child from across the room?
1.) Stop whatever you are doing. Get up and get close enough to your child and see his or her eyes.
2.) You'll notice that you speak more softly when you make the respectful effort to see your child's eyes.
Empower Your Kids
Share control with young people so they can develop the skills needed to have power over their own lives.
1.) Teach life skills.
2.) Focus on solutions together.
3.) Have faith in your children.
4.) Let go (in small steps)
5.) Increase self awareness: How do you feel? What do you think? How does this affect what you want in your life?
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